BDSM Basic

BDSM Safety: Lets get back to the basics

Safety is not just a way to score points on a foot ball field. It is an integral part of any meet, scene, play or anything else relating to BDSM or any parts of its lifestyle. Sometimes we forget that we can get ourselves in danger in the world of BDSM.  This course will give you answers to your question about safety, safe-words, safe-calls, what basic training you should have, first aid, CPR, and where to find resources to feel safe. For some of you it will be a review for others an introduction to our lifestyle, for all of us, an essential seminar to make sure we are always safe, sane and consensual.

 

I Like To Be In Charge 

Now, Who’s Going To Listen To Me? If you are sure you are a Top-Dom/me then this is where you should begin. 

This workshop will cover discuss issues pertaining to novice Top-Dom/mes. Some of these issues are:  how to accept service; how do I learn what I want and how to express it; learning skills; finding support; responsibilities, negotiating and safety issues; building confidence; and being ok with wanting to give sensual erotic pain to a bottom/sub.

We will cover as many subjects as possible. This class will provide sufficient time for one on one Q and A. We encourage participant feedback and open discussions

The Shocking World of Electrical Play

 Do you want to go beyond touching your partner with a balloon after you rub your feet on the rug hoping for that static electric zap to get them in just the right place?   Does the thought of batteries excite you because of their electrical power and not just because they make things vibrate?  

Here we will teach you the basic safety of the violet wand and TNS (tens) units, their attachments and history. Then, if you all promise to be on your best behavior, you will learn the erotic stimulation, play and excitement as well as the shocking benefits when one incorporates a little voltage into their BDSM play. 

Shopping At Domme-Depot  

Whoda’ thunk that Home Depot was the perfect store for all Your BDSM needs? Maybe you should peruse the aisles at Wal-Mart, K-Mart and even your local grocery stores. Ok, so you don’t know exactly what you are looking for, don’t fret. That is where this class comes in.  We’ll teach you how to turn ordinary, everyday items from grocery and hardware stores, or your own home, into superb SM toys.  The best part is the money you save on using some of the basics from these easily converted tools and toys can be spent on quality floggers, fetish wear and other BDSM related items that you’ve always wanted. 

 

Happy shopping.

 

So, you want to be told what to do. 
Now that you finally have come out of the closet and admit freely you are a submissive or bottom, what happens next. Well, that’s easy; you come to this presentation and learn the basics of bottoming.  

This workshop will cover issues pertaining to novice bottoms/subs. Some issues are:  how to integrate service into play; how do I learn what I want and express it; what skills do I need; support; responsibilities, negotiating and safety issues;  building confidence; and being ok with wanting to experience the erotic sensations of pain. 

We will cover as many subjects as possible. This class will provide sufficient time for one on one Q and A. We encourage participant feedback and open discussions. 

To Do or Not To Do, That is The Question  Etiquette, Protocol & Manners: Public vs. Personal

This session will address the differences and similarities of etiquette, protocol and manners as they relate to society and BDSM. We will explore historical and current differing perspectives on protocols in M/s relations, D/s relations and play. We will discuss party etiquette vs. social etiquette as well as how to determine what personal protocols may be best suited for you and your bottom.

Why It Hurts So Good: The Physiology & Psychology of Pain 

This workshop is presented from multiple perspectives. Learn about taking erotic pain as a bottom and creating erotic pain from the top, psyche & the physical perspectives. Learn to read your bottoms more accurately by learning how the body reacts to erotic pain and endorphins. Discuss what this means emotionally and physically for both parties and from all sides. This is a physically detailed class so be prepared to take notes, ask questions and learn how to be a better Top or bottom.

 

 BDSM Skills

 

Bamboo For You

Let bamboo become your friend in this wonderful presentation that teaches you more then the basics of caning.  Here we will discuss the many different types of canes, how canes are made, how to cane, where to cane, what the possibilities of cane created sensations are, cane seduction, using multiple canes, types of cane strokes, how to care for canes, and far more then we can mention here.  Rosy bottoms not included.

 

It’s Not Just For Vampires Anymore

Austin O’Malley once said, “The best blood will at some time get into a fool or a mosquito.”  Well, why should they have all the fun? Let’s enjoy the best blood in the world of BDSM and savor it for ourselves.    

Here we will discuss how playing with the most precious of body fluids taps into our most primal urges and fears.   This course covers cutting and bloodletting through the use of knives and sharps.  Of course, you better plan on learning safety issues too.   Don’t be shy.

 

Bound And Determined

Do you really mean it when you say “Sorry, she can’t get to phone right now, she’s tied up?”   If so, this is the course for you. 

 

This is an introductory course that will offer hands-on practice with ropes, handcuffs, leg irons, belly chains and leather restraints.  We will also touch upon issues of constriction, blood flow, aesthetics, immobilization and basic safety.  If you think you are fit to be tied, then this is the class you have been searching for.

 

The Kiss of Fire

Warning: Not for the faint of heart.

 

Are you ready to experience one of the ultimate thrills in edge play? Is it time to mark your property for good?  If so, then branding may be just what you are looking for.

 

This course will discuss the major aspects of branding.  We will also educate you on skin, basic anatomy, skin types and healing.  Safety concerns will be examined.

 

Breast and Chest Torture 

Use duct tape to make corsets, rope bondage, dental floss, temperature, clips, clamps, zippers, Velcro, abrasion, clothespins, zippers, slapping, flogging, and more to create sensation, bondage and a myriad of experiences with this oh so usable part of the body. Don’t forget safety aspects too.

 

Waiting To Exhale

Warning: Advanced players only.

 

Breathe play has long been touted as only for the sick minded. Well it’s time to change that.  Breathe play, or erotic asphyxiation can be quite grand when practiced under qualified hands.  Techniques to be discussed in this workshop include carotid pressure, rapid breathing and pressure, traditional styles, halting the breath and safety concerns with a strong emphasis on the safety.

 

Clips, Clamps and Clothespins, Oh My!
Do you enjoy being in a pinch? Or better yet, putting your partner in one? If so, here is the class for you.  Learn how to use clips, clamps and clothespins safely: how to judge these implements, what they do, how to control sensation, where to use them.  You will also learn the variations of theme including predicament bondage, period of time to play, zippers and more!

A Cut Above The Rest: Carving Safely

Does extreme knife play excite you? Does the thrill of properly carving one’s flesh in erotic play turn you on? If so, then this is where you need to sign up.  This presentation is designed to teach you how and where to cut as well as what to use for a variety of  scarifications and permanency techniques. You will also learn how each layer of skin creates a different sensation as it is cut. We will deal with blood, bleeding, disease, design and being prepared.  Safety will be paramount.

Ain’t That a Slap In The Face

Listen to that sound of the ‘smack’ as the bare hand stings across a reddened cheek. Your subby’s head snaps away from the blow as a smile appears on their face.  No, this isn’t abuse. It is what we in the world of BDSM call Face Play.  To help keep it safe, sane and consensual we will discuss facial slapping in depth, head locks, and the physiology of the head and neck area.  If time permits, we will also touch upon various forms of head bondage using stocks, dental floss, rope and mummification.

Some Like It Hot

In the immortal words of the Doors, “Come on baby, light my fire.”  No sweeter words could ever be said by anyone interested in fire play.  But now what happens once you have the interest in lighting up a flame under your flame?  Where do you begin incorporating the primal force, which adds power and beauty to any scene?  That’s easy, you begin right here.  This class is primarily about playing safely with flames and will detail safety precautions, mindset and technique. Only safe, sane and consensual players are welcome in this class.

 

Flails and Floggers For Fun

Do you know what makes a flail a flail verse a flogger?  What makes one type of flogger sting or another thud?  Why should you pay more money for one flogger then another?  If you want these questions and more answered, then this is the seminar for you to attend.  We will teach you difference in flails and floggers, the types of each and what to look for when shopping for quality. We will also discuss safety, how to build your bruise, how to flog no-no areas, power hitting vs. dusting, how to protect your body as a flogger and not damage your arms or shoulders and so much more.

Freshman Flogging

So, you want to learn to flog?  Well, where do you begin? How do you inflict erotic pain without incurring permanent damage?  It is time for you to learn the beginnings of flogging by the experienced Mistress Sly.  She will teach you the basic styles of flogging, strike zones, bottom posture, types of floggers, safety precautions, beginning skills, including warm-up, where and where not to hit, basic strokes, and how not to hurt yourself   Learn how to choose well-made floggers, which one is right for you, sting vs. thud, and how to build your bruise

Genitorture

Genitorture is the art of erotic play utilizing various forms of tools on a woman’s genitals.  Now, doesn’t that sound like fun?  In this class Mistress Sly will teach you what types of tools you may wish to incorporate while torturing your lucky bottom. Such tools may include:  weight systems, constant motion, abrasive material, cold, heat, wax, clamps, clips, clothespins, chains and piercings. Remember, the tools you use are only limited to your imagination.  We will also discuss the basic anatomy of a woman’s genitals and how the shape of the woman dictates the type of genitorture you may choose.

Hands-on Toy Bonanza: Learn it all!
Do you have a toy in your bag, which you're not sure how to use? Or perhaps an item laying around your house that you've looked at a few times and wondered if you can pervert it? Or perhaps you'd simply like to improve some of your existing skills? Then this is the workshop for you! Bring your toy bag and questions.  Bring a bottom if you have one and we'll learn hands-on how to use anything and everything.

Interrogation Play

Interrogation is an intense form of role-play involving the use of fear and confusion to create anxiety. Discussion and class activities will cover emotional and psychological aspects of interrogation, the resulting physical and emotional reactions and how to create a realistic scene.

 

The Cutting Edge of BDSM

Time for Mistress Sly to teach you the proper ways of knife play. Learn the use of use of the blades, sides, points, handles to stimulate, caress, threaten, cajole and cut.  Knife play is more then just cutting the flesh and drawing blood. Learn how knives are used for touching, scraping and rubbing for a variety of sensations.  Safety issues specifically discussed including sanitation issues.

Mummification: It's a wrap!

Learn what to use, the options of what you can use to create mummification and how to do a full body wrap. We will cover different types of head wraps, body wraps, partials and whole wraps. Learn what to do with them once you have them all wrapped up: games, temperatures, windows and options galore!

Negotiations: Your Most Important Tool

Learn how to negotiate well and completely on many levels pertaining to BDSM. Learn what is imperative to negotiations, why they are necessary and how to improve your skills and get what you want and need to create a basic scene or an intense long scene. This class is taught from two perspectives: a) learning how to negotiate as a top; and b) how to negotiate as a bottom. This class gets into the nitty gritty of knowing yourself, playing on multiple levels and how to bring your best self to play.  We will also touch on contract negotiations if time permits.

 

Rough Body Play

Paddling is typically the first scene most of us in leather are introduced to, but what if you don’t have any toys on hand but your hand?  Then it is time you learn to make do with the natural resources we have, our body.  This is a general course on how to hit, where to hit, safety issues, deep tissue concerns and post-care. This class will cover various techniques used to incorporate kicking, punching, slapping and shoving. Learn how to safely use your hands and feet and where to and where not to hit.  Mistress Sly will also teach you the difference between erotic hurting verses actual harming. There are many facets to these interesting hands on type of play so come join us and learn them all.

 

Play Piercing Safety and Magic

An extended piercing scene can take you and your partner on a beautiful journey you won't soon forget. Multiple temporary piercings may release endorphins, are virtually bloodless, manipulate psychic energy and can be incredibly powerful for both partners.

Offering the best piercing techniques to avoid risks for both Tops and bottoms, Mistress Sly will demonstrate several levels of intimate temporary play piercing. You will learn where to pierce, where not to pierce, deliberate sensation creation, environmental concerns, health concerns, parts of the skin, veins, arteries and handling bleeding, setting your environment and more.

 

Terror Scenes

Head games can be fun.  Head games can be damaging.  Head games can potentially be both. This class takes you right up to that fine line of distinction and perhaps half a step beyond. This is a very advanced class that incorporates aspects of interrogation, fear, and psychological torture. Any form of severe psychological play has the potential for extreme damage and should not be entered into lightly.  This is a much disciplined form of edge play and only serious players are welcome. 

Voice Commands: Mother did know Best

Do you remember walking in from school and having your mother call you by your full name? The chills it sent down your spine?  You knew you were about to be disciplined for something you did wrong and you were scared.  Well that is the basics of voice commands. Yes, mother did know best.   In this class you will learn as a Top how to use your voice effectively to command your bottom through the paramount power of tone, vibration, command and language. Learn how modulate your voice, judge by context and create mindfucks by sound alone. The subtly and nuance of voice training can make or break a scene for Tops or bottoms. All are welcome, Tops and bottoms alike.

Wax Play: More than Drip and Peel

Isn’t it nice to know you aren’t the only one that finds a light candle burning on a subby’s abdomen to be erotic?  Does the site of hot wax dripping onto one’s genitals arouse you to no end?  Hot, wet, molten and highly sensuous, wax can be a scene unto itself or just a small portion of a larger scene. This class will span the sexual erotic uses of wax to the highly painful uses of wax.  Allow Mistress Sly to teach you the basics and beyond of wax play.  Learn what to use, where to use it, temperature control without movement, doubling flames, wax bondage, wax removal options (including knife play), and cavity waxing. Learn how to use wax as it relates to genitorture.  Hot, wet and molten and highly sensuous wax can be a scene unto itself or just a small portion of a larger scene. This class will span the sexual erotic uses of wax to the highly painful uses of wax.  Types of wax, techniques of application, visual and sensual beauty as well as safety issues will be discussed. Explore the many options and erotic uses of wax as it relates to the wonderful world of BDSM.