BDSM Spiritual
BDSM Spirituality: Healing & Feminine Sexual Power
We will discuss how BDSM has affected our lives as feminine sexual beings, how has it aided in re-shaping our body image and how it’s allowed our sexual expression to move beyond the social mores of acceptable feminine sexuality and into the expression we personally need. We will also discuss BDSM becoming a healing force in our lives and debate issues regarding if it has or has not pertaining to the individuals in the class.
BDSM: A Perspective on Sexual Power
This workshop will address how women choose to come to power through their BDSM sexuality. This overview will cover the nuts and bolts of what BDSM is, the power of fantasy play, sex workers and how these notions fit into ideas of sexual freedom, self-empowerment and feminism. We will discuss the physicality, which predisposes some to this type of play and mental aspects of having the freedom to explore every part of who you are as a sexual being. Heavy on theory and feminist content.
Leather Spirituality and Ritual: Taking SM to the Next Level
Leather spirituality is sharing the common bond, pain/pleasure, which is generated from our play sessions. It is also defined as a feeling of being part of each other, a Top feeling empowered by her bottom, as the bottom receives her power she needs for the exchange. Ritual is the way humans imbue meaning into their experiences and explore that which they consider “ultimate”. This class will explore the use and expression of both spirituality and ritual in their context within the SM world and their usefulness for those who seek a deeper meaning in SM.
We will also discuss some of the common aspects described by some as "floating", highs, shift in reality, shape shifting, sub-space, Domme-space, historical perspectives and religious perspectives, as well as blood based notions. More importantly, we will discuss how you get there in concrete terms.
Reaching for the Soul
How does one prepare the body in order to attain a deeper emotional connection? What can we do in order to reach those places of nuance and spirituality only known to ourselves? What factors do specific types of play (such as blood and breathe play) play in reaching for something more than physical sensation? We will discuss some of the common aspects described by some as "floating", highs, shift in reality, shape shifting, historical perspectives and religious perspectives, as well as blood based notions. More importantly, we will discuss how you get there in concrete terms.
D/s,M/s Life
Cornerstones: Beginnings, Middles and the End
This workshop focuses on communication between bottoms, tops, and then each as individuals. Learn how to hear more effectively and understand the difference between listening and hearing as well as how to avoid mind readers syndrome. We will also discuss the differences between care-taking and taking care, illusion verses reality and defining yours, mine and ours in a BDSM relationship. Mistress Sly will facilitate a roundtable discussion to assist all in understanding personal responsibility lists, personal boundaries, owning who you are, getting what you want, dealing with mistakes and being able to separate between. Finally, you will learn to end your relationships as well as you begin them.
Creating, Keeping and Living in a Family
The dictionary describes a family as two or more people who share goals and values, have long-term commitments to one another, and reside usually in the same dwelling place. We will discuss what constitutes a leather family and how family pertains to us in the wonderful world of BDSM. Our family units are combinations of Tops, Masters, Mistresses, Dommes, Doms, subs, bottoms, slaves and however else we may be labeled, but once we live together as a unit, we are a family, Come explore that concept and talk about what works, what doesn't, how we came together, and how we've handled individuals leaving our family. After talking about some of the foundations of our family, we'll take questions from the audience.
Dominance and Submission: Contact to Contract
Where to begin can sometimes be the hardest part when it comes to D/s. Once you determine if you are a top or a bottom one has to decide what to do next. Let’s assume that you have even met your counterpart, that desirable Top if you are a bottom or bottom if you are a Top, the elementary contact has been made, but what happens now? Once the initial euphoria passes and reality sets in, you realize you want a real life relationship with your new partner. This is where it can become difficult and this is where we begin.
We will cover the what, why and how of dominate and submissive relationships and learn to integrate your D/s desires with your real world happenings. Is it proper to wear a collar to work under your 3 piece suit? What is an alternative if you want to wear those leg shackles in your office? We will discuss how and where to meet others with your same interest, proper negotiations, non-physical forms of discipline, when to instill basic protocol rules, when and if you are ready to move on to a 24/7 real-time real-life relationship involving a contract.
Dominance and Training without Physical Punishment
Are the rumors true? Can one really punish their bottoms without a whip or flogger? Some say it cannot be done. Let Mistress Sly teach you otherwise. Come learn the differences between control and power. We will discuss how one molds another without physical punishment by creating devotion, trust, self-rewarding behavior, progressive learning, confidence, and independence.
Female Hierarchical Structures of BDSM: More than girls, bois and slaves
This class will explore the feminine hierarchical anatomy and the positions which make up such a protocol. We will discuss positions, their particular and specific responsibilities, how to tailor-make your positions and where these positions came from within historical structures. We will discuss titles, responsibilities and earning your title level. We shall also cover the components of successful dominant/submissive service oriented relationships, the pitfalls to avoid and how to structure relationships between more than two women that work for everyone.
Living the Life 24/7
How does the 24/7 life work within a modern world? How can a bottom meet the demands of a Master/Mistress and still function as a member of the working society? What is realistically to be expected by either a Top or bottom and what isn't? How have successful relationships in the past been structured? How does one train within the confines of reality? How does one (from each perspective) integrate needs, wants, boundaries and desires into a workable daily routine?
Come discuss these questions and more with Mistress Sly and other like-minded individuals who are experienced with the 24/7 world of BDSM. Tops, bottoms, singles, couples, triads and other family units are welcome.
Negotiating Contracts: The Intricate Structure
Come join us for an educational view of what a contract is, the importance of one, and how to develop a viable fair working contract. Learn why contracts work for some and not for others. How do you know when a contract would be a benefit to you? What goes into contracts? Are they for bottoms/submissives only or do they benefit Tops as well? Learn how to set up contracts that work, that are all inclusive, that address situational oddities and using Contract Advocates. Handouts and contract suggestions will be provided.
Ownership: What's the deal?
Ownership, claim, possessorship, proprietary rights, proprietorship, dominance, retention; all sweet, succulent erotic words that get one’s blood flowing to all the right places. But what do they actually mean? Why would someone want to own another person? What does ownership of a person mean? Why would someone want to be a sub/slave? What's in it for a sub/slave? Is property allowed to have limits? What are the rules? How long do these relationships last? These questions and many others will be addressed by Mistress Sly in a lecture and roundtable forum. Come join Her and enjoy Her years of knowledge and give your input as well.
Service
Anticipatory Service: The Automatic Response
Come join Mistress Sly as she teaches you the wonderful world of anticipatory service. Discuss the rewards of such service and how to train your bottom to serve in such a manner. Answer a variety of questions involving the most difficult of all services known in BDSM including a) habitual patterns; b) teaching obedience; c) repetition and simplistic orders; d) managing your tasks for your house; e) What happens when you have anticipated well and feel as if you are simply doing the work without getting the dominance? f) self satisfaction vs. needing a pay off; and g) realism vs. fantasy.
Domo: The Singular Service
This class will discuss: a) what a domo does; b) their many skill sets; c) how to keep a paper trail to ease your duties; d) organization; e) boundaries & duties; f) the practical concerns of service; and g) practical day in and day out house management. A domo's life differs from many other types of servant. Learn various skills sets to improve your service and become more efficient.
Formal Dining Service: Essential Service
A formal dinner, a place setting of the finest silver, your Top in their best attire, romantic music playing in the background, a grand bottle of wine decanting on the table and everything is perfect. Well, almost everything. You forgot to put the salad fork to the far left of the setting and there is no dessert spoon to be found. Oh no, you are sure to disappoint your top now. And to think, all this could have been avoided by taking a simple class hosted by Mistress Sly.
Well here is your chance to make sure that scenario never happens to you. Many people believe it's not necessary to know how to set a table, how to serve a meal or which fork to use. These skills sets allow you to be efficient when serving your Top. These skills will provide you with knowledge of tables, wine, and service in all types of situations beyond the dining experience. We will cover how to keep food warm, a full place social verses restaurant settings, how various tables dictate a setting, how to serve, how to set a tone, linens, centerpieces, silver, dealing with candles, stains and more. This class is for Tops and bottoms alike.
Leather Protocol Dinner
Come join us as we talk about what you need to prepare for this party. We will cover how to pace your dinner so that everyone enjoys, how various tables dictate a setting, how to serve, how to set a tone, linens, centerpieces, silver, dealing with candles, stains and more. This class is for Tops and bottoms alike.
Managing Servants I
This class will discuss how one begins to manage potential property. It will cover the following subjects: a) continuing interviews; b) setting protocols; c) dealing with limits and mutual boundaries; d) time management as you don't live together; e) beginning exercises for learning; f) progressively advancing your relationship; g) creating a foundation for a deeper relationship down the road; and h) mixing play and service. These are the basics for cultivating happy, useful servants/bottoms.
Managing Servants II
Once you're past the initial stages of ownership how does one manage servants well day in and day out? How do we create D/s relationships that last and are satisfying? This class will discuss: a) managing live-in servants; b) managing servants who do not live with you; c) maintaining protocols; d) educating and maintaining a balanced servant; d) raising the bar in your relationship; e) correction, punishment and reward; and f) keeping your play alive.
Personal Service: Valets, Lady's Maids and Specialized Service
In this workshop we will discuss the many intricacies of personalized service. Each position maintains a large skill set, specific duties and assignments. Every position will be covered in detail as they relate to Victorian play. Mistress Sly will then open the floor for a discussion regarding the current obligations of those who serve. Afterwards a trouble shooting session will be held.
Realities of Service
This class discusses the realities of service from an owner and owned perspective, although the discussion can include dominants as well. In order to better help the participants, popular BDSM literature is used to illustrate realities of service since, many leather folk formed their ideas of the leather community from the literature they choose to read.
Refining Service Movement
This is a class for submissives/bottoms/slaves who wish to refine their movement, stance and body control. It's also a class for Tops to learn how to manage their bottoms. Your every movement communicates your disposition. Each movement is rift with nuance, discipline and sentiment. Learn the language of your craft and refine your hands, various forms of kneeling, types of crawling, your overall body movements and service. Learn how to be invisible or a showpiece and discern when each is appropriate. Understand the proper use of body language and how to use it as a submissive to best serve your Top.
Service & Time Management: How to do it all
How do you hold down a full time job, keep your own affairs in order and provide good service? Are there enough hours in the day? Come have Mistress Sly answer these questions and more as you learn to structure your time, relationship and rest periods wisely. Make sure you don't burn out or misuse your property through lack of use or poor time management.
Service: Buffets, Parties & Gatherings
One of the most useful skills a servant may have is to be able to handle a social gathering in their Tops name. One of the most useful skills a Top may have is how to direct a servant for social gatherings. In this class, Mistress Sly will cover: a) how to speak to guests; b) being prepared to care for garments in regards to stains; c) how to prepare for the unknown, accidental occurrences; d) handling allergies & vegans; e) how to set a buffet table; f) the use of serving trays; g) smaller gatherings & larger affairs; h) drinks; i) seating arrangements; and j) managing multiple servers. Having these skills will allow you to serve 2 to 200 and make your Top proud. This class is recommended for both Tops and bottoms. .
Fetish Classes
Age Play: From the Sandbox to the Bedroom
Kidz rule! Age Play is fantasy role-play where the reality of you and your partner's (or partners') age and/or gender does not matter. We are talking about consenting adults here - this is not about pedophilia! Come and learn how to be a kid again! Or how to relate to someone who likes to be a kid! This class is being taught in two parts. First we will get together for some coloring and crafts (making hats for the tea party) and games and stuff. And we'll have candy! Then we will have a kidz table at lunch and we will sing a song for everybody. Did I mention we'll have candy?
Explore the emotional, mental and physical aspects of this very charged type of play. The discussion will address an age range from 6 to 16 years of age. Sexual and non-sexual forms of play will be discussed, as well as the attendant roles of those who play with "children." Meet each persona and learn how they were "born", who they are, who they play with and why.
Anal Sex: The Other Penetrative Pleasure
Come explore the many infinite possibilities of anal sex. Discover the erotic and sensual world of arse play as it relates to BDSM.
In this workshop we will discuss types of lube, physiology, anatomy, gender differences, safety concerns and your options for anal pleasure of all types. Come learn everything you need to explore.
Boot Worship: The Sole of Sex
Boot worship is a highly diverse activity. It can be about D/s, sex, and bondage, done as a top or a bottom and be one of the hottest, sexiest activities you'll ever engage in. This class will discuss: a) types of boots; b) boot licking; c) deep throating heels; d) views from the Top and the bottom; e) techniques of boot licking from the bottom; f) managing a boot licker as a top; g) heels vs. toes; h) boot humping; i) boot worship as a top or bottom; h) CBT; and i) boot worship as sex.
Bring your boots and prepare to understand the mystery and captivation of boot worship.
Fisting
The hand closed tightly with the fingers bent against the palm after insertion into an orifice. The ecstasy of it all. The power for the top is only comparable to the submission and excitement of the bottom.
Beware though; fisting is not for the faint hearted. It takes skill and practice to be done safely and enjoyable for all parties involved. If this interests you then this class is a great way to learn the art of fisting. We will discuss how to fist, the safety of fisting, working you’re way in, anal vs. vaginal fisting, and double handed fisting. Other topics touched upon if time permits will be dealing with long fingernails, enemas and more.
Foot Torture
This class will go over some of the basics as to what foot fetishism is, along with how to torture those lovely feet we have come to treasure and derive pleasure from. We will be covering abrasion, temperature sensation, flogging, paddling, and the crowd favorite, Bastinado.
Genderfucks, Packing and Good Sex
Come learn and discuss genderfucks. I will address femme dick and butch cock. What are your options for packing and fucking? What is the difference between a dildo and butch cock? What is the mentality of packing and including this as an intricate part of your sexuality? Learn how to place your cock well, the options for placement and how to cum with your new body part.
Costuming the pony and trainers for shows
Bring you ideas, thoughts, and desires for costuming you and your pony for a show. If you can bring along some of your costumes so we can share what works and doesn’t. Our ponies have this beautiful tack can we add to it for shows? I will show you some tricks to add on without damaging the tack. It is also important that we as trainers get dressed up also. I will show you how to plan out themes for your costumes.
Trainers training: The how’s what’s and why of pony play.
You have seen them in magazines, on the internet, at leather events, those wonderful human ponies that are so graceful and seem to know what to do without speaking. Let’s talk about why we like pony play. What you need to be a trainer, what it means mean to us to be a trainer, How to start, basic commands, basic equipment, and how much work does it take to train a pony.
Daddies, Mommies, geishas, the casting couch, bosses, chambermaid, and all sorts of theatrical play. Let your world be as diverse as you dare. Learn how to contribute to the authenticity of your games. How do we create anything and everything that our imagination presents to us? We will also delve extensively into theatrical play.
Shaving women
Imagine the razor gliding over your slave’s skin as it removes the white creamy foam and the unwanted hair, exposing the smoothness you adore. Simply yummy.
Come meet Mistress Sly and discuss shaving just to shave, as a scene, an addendum to a scene or as a punishment. Whether it is better to use a straight razor, safety razor or clippers to remove unwanted hair. This course will discuss the limitless joy of shaving for it’s own sake as well as for ulterior motives.
Corporal Punishment: The Cane
In the Victorian Era, the cane was the most feared instrument of punishment. Part of the canes mysticism is the ritual and theater associated with its application, which is as much about psychological torment and fear as it is the actual beating.
Come explore the wonderful world of caning and corporal punishment with Mistress Sly as this workshop covers the basics of this art form. Who knows, maybe you will even find the tools you need to fulfill that schoolmistress fantasy you have been dreaming about.
Corsetry: History of the Corset and How We Enjoy Ours.
From historical records going back to well past the 14th century corsets in one form or another have been use for body modification.
Come with your corsets and your questions about purchasing your next corset, proper fit, and beginning waist training. This workshop will demo for you the correct way to measure for your next corset and some of the rituals with rope corsets from island counties in the south pacific. We’ll also discuss the history of corsets, what material corsets were made of, who used corsets and why. Be prepared to be aroused, amazed and learn at the same time.
Oh and men, this workshop is not only for the women. Corsetry will be shown to be erotic and romantic for you and your partner from shopping for to lacing to wearing.
Manners & Etiquette: A Victorian Approach
How do the Victorian ideals of character, civility, and a moral/ethical sense fit into our perspective on BDSM? We will explore these concepts and the concepts of prescribed behavior regarding: a) appropriate etiquette, standing for ladies, holding doors & chairs; c) Ladies waiting to be invited to rise, given a hand or smoking only when seated; and d) gender as a definitive line which prescribes behavior. Many of these notions cross over into areas of service and BDSM and what is known as old school protocol. Come discuss with Mistress Sly ways to learn from our past rather than reinventing the wheel.
Waist Training With Corsets
The beautiful curves of a corseted woman will always make heads turns and mouths water. Bodybuilders used corsets to form their beautiful bodies into well sculpted masterpieces rivaling that of Michelangelo’s works. It was all the rage in the Victorian Era; a woman wasn’t a woman unless she was corseted. It is still all the rage in much of BDSM play.
Come meet with Mistress Sly and learn the advanced techniques of corseting. Discuss the wonders of waits training after learning a brief little history of the corset. Mostly this workshop will give you a program so that too can waist train. Come with your corsets, and questions about waist training and all will be answered. Oh and men this workshop is not on for the women, I will show you how to waist train and how to make lacing a corset, erotic and romantic.